There are many definitions of success. For some it’s reaching a certain salary, for others success is keeping your head above water. In the past, success to me meant being independent. Now, I’m not so sure. In most people’s eyes I’m not successful. I live with my parents and for the past year have worked under the table jobs. Now, I’m a temp at my old corporate job and trying to find a balance between work and writing. When I come home there’s my nephew, parents, dogs, etc. There’s always something to catch up on or someone who needs something. I am never idle and my weekends are spent doing chores I couldn’t do during the week. I know everyone can relate to that.
Recently I was talking to my friend Jai who I’ve known for 8 years. Over time we’ve built up a good phone relationship and it works for us. We may not hear from one another for 6 months, but when we talk, it’s like no time passed. Anyway, we had a talk yesterday and were catching each other up on the past 3 months or so. I wasn’t saying much since I was buzzing my dog while she told me some crazy stories. I did manage to get her up to date with where I was personally and she was happy for me. Before we got off the phone, she said, “You know what? I think you’re doing damn good. You’re true to yourself, know who you are and what you want. I have no doubt that you’re going to be a success no matter what you do. I’m proud of you.” This was said completely out of the blue and I was shocked by the unexpected flood of tears. She said it so off handedly, so casually as if it was already a done deal. She has no idea what my future holds (and neither do I) but that doesn’t stop her from declaring it for me. We get so caught up in money, titles and prestige that we forget that we can’t take those things with us.
Success is a feeling, not a figure and I think others see it in ourselves better than we do. I’d seen this video below several days prior to and had to share it. I think it shows that we’re rich in different ways and what we sow in others will come back. Sometimes we need someone else to describe what we see in the mirror because we don’t see clearly. Thank God for friends and family.